Your life partner and other half can ONLY be a person who actively values you and is on a constant journey to improve alone and alongside you. This is why loyalty comes easy and why these people DO life with you. And if you see signs they mistreat themselves, rest assured it will happen to you. Simple.
Consideration is one of the highest forms of love and only small minds cannot process this or see consideration as something negative and some weird manipulation. Again, simple signs people don’t even realize they are showing you. Watch. If you’re genuinely self-reflective and working to better yourself, you will see what they don’t see about themselves or know but continue anyway and when they lack things that are Basic Human 101.
The epiphany is I always saw them clearly, very early on. Always. Despite the warnings, red flags, realities, whatever you want to call them, I proceeded. Every single one. Or the other way to think about it is I treated them like I would me, imperfection doesn’t mean unlovable. And this, they failed to value and chose not to ever meet. So I followed the rule, and handled the inconsiderate who stay dangerously unevolved, “accordingly” as I, G and B would say. I now find them and people like them, a bit funny.