Again, today, I was told to do this when I shared my perspective on something. All my life I’ve been telling myself or others have been telling me to do this. Some with empty flattery and a few with genuine sincerity. This one I count as sincere, a member of a special group whom I’ve never met in real life but it seems my comments strike him profoundly.
This is what I said and it is now what I feel, truly. And it’s not something I would’ve known for myself if every year and every person behind me had not happened:
“I’ve analyzed myself so much that I now know part of my overwhelm actually comes from meeting people where they are at. In most cases we see this as a good way to connect, but I’m not so sure it’s the case in romantic partnerships. Because often if we have to meet someone it’s because they are not at our level which causes immediate stress. It’s like our intuition knows one of us is not yet ready but the weakness in our mind or heart wants to still find a way, maybe fearing loss of the chance forever.
I actually believe we can meet people at our level that can still challenge, complement and enrich our lives but still be very different from us. Just requires a level of discernment borne from a lot of lessons.”